10/05/2022
I haven't been posting much as Leap, as we move closer to officially celebrating this love-filled goofball, Brad Bawmann. A friend recently asked me what I'd be wearing to his funeral; and when I answered, she said it was helpful, so I'm sharing it here.
You may or may not know that I've been to a lot of funerals. And over the years, I've learned that it helps me to wear or bring something that reminds me of the person we've lost. It makes me feel like they are with me. Which makes me smile, remembering the best of that person.
So this Friday, in honor of Brad, I'll be wearing a bowtie, and maybe crazy socks -- because that's how I picture him, and I think he'd approve. If we were doing a TBG event, I'd hashtag it .
I haven't completely forgiven him for leaving us the way he did. But I'm trying. And the one time I wore a bowtie in his honor recently, I felt like he approved. And, amidst the sadness, it made me happy.
I don't know what Brad's memory might mean to you. But if bringing a note he sent, or wearing a bowtie or crazy socks helps you get through what will likely be a very emotional day, then I hope you do it. Because ultimately, he wanted the people he loved to be happy. And remembering how he lived and not just how he died might just do that.