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09/11/2014

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/home/science/Similarly-educated-couples-last-says-study/articleshow/45085280.cms

Some important Heads up for the soon to be married :))

If he knows what's good for him, the modern gentleman will prefer brains, not blondes —according to a new study of marriage.

16/12/2013

Project Shiksha -From Darkness to LightIn order to increase employment opportunities to its beneficiaries NABET has conceptualized the idea of starting an online educational website under its own banner. This website shall provide invaluable educational content to students of various age and levels...

22/10/2013

100 and counting thanks for the love everyone ...:)

22/10/2013

Best wishes to all for the festival of love.Here is wishing for many more to come

21/10/2013

I am A Dark Fat Girl – Who Will Marry Me?

During our client interactions, I happened to chance upon a family based in South Delhi. The family was of well off means and well settled. While we were interacting with the Bride’s father discussing about his expectations in his future son-in-law, I saw a calm and calibrated expression from his daughter. Initially I was of the opinion that the head of the family has the initiative to speak his mind out on his requirement and expectations but the agony was piling up on the girl’s face. I failed to limit myself as a professional and asked her “Madam, do you want to say something”? She indicated that she wants to speak to me in private and asked me to pick up my glass and meet her in the balcony. Now, I had 2 glasses in front of me – A glass full of water and one filled with a Coke. I instinctively lifted the Coke glass and walked to the adjoining balcony. She asked me “Why did u choose the Coke “? “Well Coke appealed more to me than ordinary water” I answered. She continued “that is the problem with the entire society. Things that appeal to be beautiful and decorative are the one’s people generally choose over the ordinary and accessible. My father wants a Govt. Service boy based out of Delhi, why should a boy accept me when he would have other options in a slimmer, fairer and more beautiful girl than me. This is an arranged marriage where choices spoil selection. I know my limitations. I am not fair and certainly not slim. I am happy with my body and don’t want my physical appearance be the deciding factor in my match search. Please search for a boy, any profession or Income level, who will accept me the way I am and be proud of the future that we can stitch together“.
Honestly, being slim and beautiful has been the biggest agony in today’s time. Groom’s and their family craze for photo more than the girl, her qualifications and her family background. Isn’t it surprising that the deciding factor has shifted from compatibility to Couple’s “Appearability” . This debate of beauty over person isn’t to die soon. However, the society is known to evolve and will certainly understand the true meaning of Matrimony.

19/10/2013

“Happily ever after is not a fairy tale. It’s a choice.”
You need to understand there would not be perfect person but its your choice how you address the differences...This vedio says it allhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z8X97OL06OY

Cast : Areesz Ganddi https://twitter.com/Areesz http://www.facebook.com/areeszlive Saunskruti Kher Avantika Shetty Screenplay and Direction : Nars Krishnamac...

19/10/2013

“Men marry women with the hope they will never change. Women marry men with the hope they will change. Invariably they are both disappointed.”
― Albert Einstein

10/10/2013

Majority of high end clients prefer not to advertise their son or daughter matrimonial profile on any online portal. Rightly so, family pride and self ego takes a beating when you advertise for an alliance sought on any medium. Also the generation that is initiating the dialogue on behalf of the groom or bride is not technology savvy and relies on newspaper as their mouthpiece.
But with the growing population now connected over the Internet it is imperative that this medium to search for your partner be not overlooked. The way to not let privacy or self pride be intruded is by signing up with an agency who does matching profile check on all available mediums and short list them. These matches be then approached by an offline medium and discuss about a potential alliance. This is the proposed methodology of Impes and it is a safe way to manage high end clients.

02/10/2013

I want a match for my daughter and my son is law should be 3-4 yrs elder to her ....want to know why?

why are Indian parents rigid on marrying their daughters to men 3-4 years older,,. cause Whatever you may look like, marry a man your own age – as your beauty fades, so will his eyesight”

30/09/2013

Finding alliances in modern times can be quite challenging. Even more challenging however is fielding a variety of questions that parents put across.
“I hold a high position in society – it is a matter of shame that I am compelled to seek matrimonial alliance for my daughter through matrimonial sites/ newspaper ads”, complained the prospective bride’s father. “My daughter is educated, beautiful and well cultured. Earlier, marriage proposals would come to our doorsteps -- what has become of our society “?- he wooed.
True. But times have changed. Our expectations, values, attitudes, perceptions etc too have undergone changes . Earlier, relatives used to look for alliances from their extended families and these were normally settled by the family elders. Choices were limited but so were the parameters that decided alliances.

With the internet throwing a large number of options, matchmaking is now more refined. Information and options of career, education, location, family status etc is available on net and this throws wide options to choose from. More and more educated people use internet to gather inputs and hence this medium is a better source of matrimonial inputs. Consequently, the bride/ groom’s search is more effective and refined which focuses on basics but indulges in specifics too.
Marriage agencies handle a variety of matrimonial alliance seekers and are professionals who can offer proper advice, options and suggestions too.
Often good alliance prospects go awry on trivial matters. Bloated egos of parents of either parties, unnecessary focus on avoidable details,disparity in views on certain matters rock the alliance boat.
The matrimony service providers act as a go between and w**d out the thorns through astute negotiations. Such interventions avoid matters to precipitate when going gets tough by family members handling negotiations themselves .
No man is an island. One has to seek support for delicate/specialized tasks. It is therefore not a matter that involves loss of pride/face when alliance is sought through websites, newspapers , alliance facilitators etc.
Howsoever high one’s own stature be, professional assistance helps in matchmaking. Refusal to do so not only restricts informed choice but also denies children of a better alliance prospect due to false sense of pride. Sadly the price of such irrational views are borne by children—lifelong.

20/09/2013

Reams have been written about arranged Vs love marriages. Arguments from both sides are strong and so merit consideration . Let us delve more into both forms of marriage.
Traditionally, marriages in our society has been arranged ones. Elders, relatives, friends, villagers would join hands to find good matches. Income levels, land holding, family background besides good health/looks etc formed the basis of selection. In most cases, known acquaintances from a neighborhood village would end up as the preferred choice.
Love marriage is not a recent phenomenon but is gradually gaining acceptance especially in urban India. The reasons are many – migration to cities for jobs have distanced families from their roots. Dwindling support from family/relatives also prompt such a situation. Moreover, the need is driven by practical real time challenges. The choice is matter of convenience for both. They perhaps work together, have similar tasks, targets, incomes etc and face similar challenges. Moreover they interact with each other and understand each other better. In such a scenario it is the overall situation and convenience that prompt alliances. Background, family, their past is often not fully understood. Perhaps, young minds do not have the wisdom, patience or time/wherewithal to go into these matters. Fear of rejection often compel them to avoid uncomfortable questions.

Arranged ones on the other hand is matter of family, status, parental wisdom, thorough checks on the antecedents of both parties, honour etc. The focal point is both the girl / boy and the family. And yes it does have the boys’/ girls’ approval too. The modern society does not work on the earlier model where parental decisions were binding on children. In most cases, consent of children is sought before a decision is taken.
Love marriage is often secretive,with limited knowledge where focus is more on the person and not family. Such marriages are often decided in a hurry to escape censure/disapproval from parents /society. The risks and pitfalls are many in such cases, specially in situations where marriages are confronted with tough situations after marriage. Family support may/may not be at hand.
In arranged marriages however filial/societal pressure acts as a cushion that prevents breakup.