Sunshynegraycoach

Sunshynegraycoach Christian Life Coach | Specializing in identifying, understanding and healing from destructive relationships. https://sunshynegray.kit.com/7bb9151c50
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As a Christian counselor and certified trauma specialist, I help individuals break free from emotional and narcissistic abuse. Through compassionate, faith-based counseling and coaching, I guide clients on a healing journey to restore their peace, confidence, and sense of purpose. Together, we’ll uncover your true identity in Christ, rebuild your self-worth, and empower you to thrive in healthy, life-giving relationships.

05/21/2026

You didn’t land here by accident… Tap follow and stay a while!

05/17/2026

This isn’t taught in church enough⬇️

Relationship advice taught in the church does not separate imperfect people from destructive people.

❤️‍🩹If you take beautiful truths from the Scriptures and apply it to a destructive person (when it’s intended to be applied to an imperfect person), it creates cycles of harm.

⭐️Tap Follow to learn how to deal with destructive people according to the Bible.

💔When you’re dealing with a destructive person… Sometimes the most loving and faithful thing you can do is let them go.

05/13/2026

Watch til the end so you know how to respond👍🏻

➡️Constantly refusing to be held accountable as a narcissistic trait, and it will be accompanied by emotional abuse.

‼️The only way to avoid accountability is to be deceptive.

➡️Manipulation and gaslighting is a form of deception and it is emotionally abusive because it negatively impacts your emotion and your thoughts.

❤️‍🩹It causes you to doubt yourself and your reality… That is abusive.

if you think that you are in a destructive relationship, ➡️Tap Follow ⭐️to learn more about the patterns to watch out for.

05/08/2026

Jesus walked away from abusive people⬇️

❤️Jesus was known for humility, compassion and serving others (Philippians 2). He was also very clear about His ministry and didn’t let people who were abusive to get in the way.

➡️ If Jesus didn’t drain His resources into hard hearted and abusive people, nor should we.

⭐️Jesus “withdrew” when people were hostile. He didn’t stay and try to convince them of truth. He walked away.

Matthew 12:14–15 But the Pharisees went out and plotted how they might kill Jesus. Aware of this, Jesus withdrew from that place.

⭐️Jesus didn’t entrust Himself to people with wrong motives.

John 2:24–25 says Jesus “would not entrust himself to them… for he knew what was in each person.”

⭐️Jesus refused circular arguments meant to trap Him.

Matthew 21:23–27 (paraphrase) They questioned His authority trying to trap Him, and Jesus refused to play their game.

⭐️Jesus became silent before abusive accusations.
Luke 23:8–9 He plied him with many questions, but Jesus gave him no answer.

⭐️When people reject truth Jesus tells us to walk away.

Matthew 10:14 If anyone will not welcome you or listen to your words, leave that home or town…

⭐️Jesus did not chase people who didn’t want truth.

In John 6, many disciples left after hard teaching.

⭐️Jesus confronted hypocrisy and deception with pretty harsh words.

With the Pharisees, Jesus call them a brood of vipers and whitewashed tombs.

➡️The enemy will use people to drain your resources from the life God has for you.

It isn’t loving to tolerate abusive patterns.

Tap Follow for biblical truth about abusive people.

05/07/2026

If you feel any of the things listed, TAP FOLLOW, you didn’t land here by accident.

05/06/2026

This is how to know if someone is really sorry and taking responsibility…

💔It’s important to recognize that destructive people will say they are sorry in order to avoid the consequences of their choices.

If we don’t recognize when an apology is fake, it will create a cycle of harm.

The Bible teaches that reconciliation is not possible with someone who sorry for what they did.

This is what you need to look for…

➡️First, they need to actually apologize without justifying minimizing or deflecting.

➡️Second, they need to have the capacity to listen to you talk about the impact it had on you. Someone who isn’t truly sorry will not be willing to hear how it hurt you.

➡️Third, they will have an actual plan to repair the damage they did. Someone who is truly sorry will willingly repair the relationship.

➡️Fourth and final, you will see a consistent change over time.

⭐️Tap follow if you are feeling confused in a relationship. I want you to have clarity!

05/04/2026

This is the hard truth⬇️

This might be why your marriage feels harder than everyone else’s marriage…

💔So many women come to me thinking they just have a hard marriage.

But here’s what I see over and over again… something feels off. You can’t quite name it, but you know deep down that what you’re experiencing isn’t normal.

So you do what you’ve been taught to do.

⭐️You pray more. ⭐️You submit more. ⭐️You extend more grace, more patience, more love.

And things still don’t change.

So you start to wonder… is it just me?

You question yourself. You second-guess your feelings. And because you can’t explain it, you don’t talk about it.

You carry it alone.

Here’s what I want you to know, what you’re describing may not just be a hard marriage. It may be an emotionally abusive one.

➡️And that distinction matters more than you know.

‼️If this is you, ✨tap follow✨ because that’s exactly what I talk about here.

The difference between a hard marriage and a destructive one.

You deserve to finally have a name for what you’ve been feeling.

04/29/2026

Here’s the truth⬇️

1. See danger → don’t stay…run away.

Proverbs 22:3 “The prudent see danger and take refuge, but the simple keep going and pay the penalty.”

2. Don’t stay connected to abusive patterns.

2 Timothy 3:1–5 “…abusive… without self-control… lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God—having a form of godliness but denying its power. Have nothing to do with such people.”

3.Have nothing to do with evil—expose it.

Ephesians 5:11 “Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them.”

4. The enemy uses people to destroy people. (read that again)

2 Timothy 2:25–26 “…they will come to their senses and escape from the trap of the devil, who has taken them captive to do his will.”

5. Grace doesn’t change a hardened heart.

Isaiah 26:10 “But when grace is shown to the wicked, they do not learn righteousness…”

6. Patterns reveal who someone really is…Pay attention to patterns, not promises.

Matthew 7:16 “By their fruit you will recognize them…”

7. Set limits with divisive, harmful people and have nothing to do with them.

Titus 3:10–11 “Warn a divisive person once, and then warn them a second time. After that, have nothing to do with them.”

‼️Notice that none of these verses indicate exceptions when it’s a spouse, parent or other significant person in your life.

⭐️Tap Follow for more about how to deal with abusive people.

04/29/2026

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04/26/2026

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